Dear Friends & Family,
 
I am writing this letter to urge you to vote NO on Prop 8, which seeks to eliminate marriage for same-sex couples.
 
Prop 8 will take away the right of same-sex couples to marry in the state of California.  They have had the right to marry in California since June 18, 2008.  Their marriage licenses are valid, legal, and no different than yours and mine. 

Having a marriage recognized by your church or religion is different from civil marriage.  If you attend a specific church, you probably have both a civil marriage and a marriage recognized by the church you attend.  I only have a civil marriage.  Nobody is trying to force any church or religion to marry same-sex couples, nor are they asking churches or religions to recognize civil marriages as fulfilling the requirements of marriage of a particular religion.
 
Taking away the fundamental civil rights of otherwise qualified adults is wrong.  Don't use your religious beliefs, which are arguably the most precious thing in your life, as an excuse to descriminate.  You may not like to hear it, but if you support Prop 8 that is exactly what you're doing.  What if someone was trying to deny you the right to legally marry the person you love because you don't share their religious beliefs or because your marriage is not recognized by any religious body?  Or if you do belong to a specific religion, is my marriage any less valid than yours, just because I am not married in a church?  Or because I don't have children?  Of course not.  In the state of California, my marriage is just as legal and just as valid.  So should it be for same-sex couples, whose relationships deserve the same respect and validation as ours, regardless of religious beliefs.  Marriage brings emotional, social, and financial benefits that are being denied to thousands of American citizens every day.  That descrimination cannot continue.
 
My marriage is the most important thing in my life.  That is why I am so passionately in favor of the rights of same-sex couples to marry if they choose to.  I know how wonderful marriage can be and don't want other loving couples to be denied that right.  I can't imagine how it would feel if someone was trying to take that away from me, can you?  That's exactly what Prop 8 is trying to do to same-sex couples. 
 
I'm asking you to do the right thing and not use your religious beliefs as an excuse to descriminate.  Your beliefs are too important to lessen by doing that.
 
Holly

Here I am sitting amid the ocean waves and sunshine of 80+ degree Southern California knitting winter hats and mittens.  I will not lose hope that the Fall weather will come, even if it's some time in March.  Forget about Winter.

My latest quick project was Gauntlet Mittens, by Kris Percival in her book Speed Knitting.  There are actually a lot of cool projects in this book (just remember that "speed" doesn't necessarily mean "one skein") and I've there are few more things I'll be knitting from it in the next few weeks.

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I used Lion Brand Wool-Ease Thick & Quick, with size 13 circular needles for the cuffs and size 11 DPNs for the mitten itself.  One pair of these takes me about three hours.  I modified the pattern to shorten the cuffs and also measured the sections of my hands (cuff to thumb, then fingers) because the first mitten I knit according to the measurements in the pattern it was a bit too small.

Mittens 

I have to admit I used to hate Thick & Quick, but now I kind of love it.  It comes in some lovely colors this season and it's very soft.  Also, quick knit projects suit me very, very well, as instant gratification takes too long for me (line stolen from Postcards from the Edge).

I’m not sure what triggered it, but today I did a search on YouTube for my former choir director, Paul Salamunovich, and found this:

Okay, I’m not asking you to look at almost 10 minutes of video of a boring chorale/orchestral performance (or am I)?

I just had to post this because I totally remember this performance (I am somewhere on the middle-left, about three rows back) and it brought back such vivid memories of a very important time in my life.

At the time, 1987, I had a very good, clear, soprano voice.  By the time I graduated I was a second soprano.  Now I can hardly sing at all.  Must be all the whiskey and cigarettes.

But most importantly, I want to say that Paul Salamunovich was a very important man in my life.  He was inspiring, unyielding, and completely unforgiving if you missed a note (and if you couldn’t sight sing, forget it, get the fuck out of here).  And he could coax the sweetest of sounds out of the most clueless of freshmen.  I know, because I was one of them.  Every rehearsal was a performance, and he explained the music in such a way that it felt like theatre–you weren’t just singing, you were acting, you were being the music.  Sound poetic, and in a way I’m sure it is–you know the memory of an eighteen year-girl.  Always romance and flowers.

He is, to use a very tired cliche, the real deal.  And I am so very proud to have been able to work with him.

Now and then I am lulled into the false reality that as a group, humans have acheived some degree of enlightenment.  Then I remember that we are still actively and legally descriminating against each other and I am brought crashing back to earth.  In this case, I'm talking about marriage descrimination, specifically, marriage descrimination for same-sex couples.

Actually, in the state of California, we officially stopped the descrimination on June 17, 2008.  Unfortunately, Prop 8, which seeks to eliminate the right of same-sex couples to marry, will be on the ballot in November.  Eliminating the rights of adults who want to participate in marriage, a legal institution which provides financial, social, and emotional benefits not available through domestic partnerships (which were legalized in 1999), is not only wrong, but morally reprehensible.  Same-sex couples already have the right to marry legally in California, and Prop 8 seeks to eliminate that right. 

Here's the deal.  In 2000, California voters approved Proposition 22, which stated that "only marriage between a man and a woman is considered valid and recognized in California."  Despite this, in 2004, San Francisco mayor Gavin Newsom mandated the issuing of marriage licenses to same-sex couples in San Francisco, which resulted in almost 4000 marriages.   These marriages were later annulled by the California Supreme Court, and the city of San Francisco began a legal challenge on behalf of these couples which led to the May 2008 California Supreme Court ruling that limiting marriage of same-sex couples was unconstitutional.  The court refused to stay its order, and as of June 17, 2008, same-sex couples have the legal right to marry in California.

Between June 17 and September 2008, over 11,000 same-sex couples have legally married in California, and by November, there will be many more.  These marriages are recognized and valid, and they are no different from marriages between opposite-sex couples.  Furthermore, if Prop 8 passes, these marriages will almost certainly remain valid, as constitutional scholars agree that the amendment proposed in Prop 8 will not be retroactive.  That means that even if Prop 8 passes, thousands of same-sex couples who are already legally married in California will remain legally married.  Which is as it should be.

As the election approaches, I will be writing more about this issue, as I am very passionate about it.  Let there be no mistake:  Prop 8 does not protect marriage.  It eliminates the fundamental rights of human beings.

A few months ago, my friend Julie gave me a pair of clip on earrings that had belonged to her grandmother.  They were unusual, but so tarnished it was hard to see what they were.  After cleaning them up a little, it appeared that they were some kind of Buddhas or genies–at any rate, a very interesting design.

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I held on to them for quite awhile but knowing Julie’s birthday was coming up I thought they would make a great 40th birthday present.  I set to work trying to think of a good design for them.

After cutting off the clips from the back and asking my jewelry teacher to look at them, I realized that they had some kind of enamel on them that might not stand up to heat.  My original idea was to do some soldering on them, so this meant that I probably wouldn’t want to do that.  Instead, I drilled holes at the top and attached jump rings that way.

I knew I wanted to add some gemstones and since the earrings themselves were already in a tear drop shape, I decided to let them hang at the bottom of the design.  I hammered circles and soldered jump rings to them.  Then I added golden tourmaline briolettes to echo the tear drop shape of the earring bottoms.

The end result is gorgeous, though I’m sorry to say that this photo does not do them justice.  They are very shiny and totally striking.  Best of all, they’re one-of-a-kind and a great re-use of sentimental, but old-fashioned, jewelry.

Julie

I love them!

Happy Birthday, Julie!

Behold, one of my favorite knit projects of all time:  The Clapotis Wrap.  It’s meant to be a scarf, but it’s big enough to be a wrap.

Air

I love scarves, and I don’t have near enough of them. When I found this pattern on Knitty, I knew it would be a perfect scarf for the not-so-cold winters of Santa Monica.

Neck

Of course, I used a different yarn than is called for in the pattern, but it worked nicely:

Patons Grace
4 skeins Brown, 3 skeins Azure
Size 6 circular needles

Wrap

While it took me a couple of weeks longer to knit than I thought it would, I almost didn’t mind because it is such a fun pattern.  There is something very decadent about dropping stitches in a pattern, and in this one I got to do it every 12 rows.  Obviously, I have to get my entertainment where I can.

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It’s also a forgiving pattern–at the end I had the wrong amount of stitches and I was able to easily “hide” it.  So it’s not perfect, but you’d never know.

I know I will be wearing it a lot this fall and winter!

Today is our 10 year wedding anniversary.  Mick, I dedicate this song to you:

Seems like only yesterday we were swaying clumsily back and forth to this song in front of family and friends.  What we lacked in dancing skills, we’ve certainly made up for in love and happiness.

Everyone says marriage is hard work, but I have to be honest, it’s not hard at all for Mick and I.  It’s actually pretty darned fun.  And just to prove it, we’re taking trapeze lessons today to celebrate this momentous occasion.

Happy Anniversary, Mick!  I love you!

Remember when I blogged about how happy I was about the vegetable "garden" I planted about two months ago?

Well, chickadees, it has thus far yielded me the following:

1 zucchini
1 Japanese eggplant
0 tomatoes
Enough lettuce to make about six salads
Loads of basil
Loads of Italian parsley
Loads (though still not fully grown) of serano chilis

Kissing_zucchini 

The Japanese eggplant plant died and has been removed.  The zucchini plant is almost dead and almost certainly will not give me any more vegetables.  The tomato plant is also almost dead and waiting for removal.  The salad greens are happily growing and show no signs of faltering any time soon.

My housekeeper told me I waited too long to plant and that it's too cold and wet here in the mornings right now, which is probably why all my plants died.  I also let the bugs kind of eat them up a little, so that was my bad.

I did make some very tasty turkey burgers using my zucchini:

1 lb ground turkey breast
1 cup chopped mushrooms
4 large garlic cloves, coursely chopped
1 small zucchini, chopped
1 egg
Garlic salt to taste
Fresh ground pepper to taste

Mix all ingredients and form into patties, then grill and serve on buns with all the fixin's.

As soon as the serano chilis are ready I'll probably add half a chopped serano–although that might upset the flavor balance a little.  We'll see.

Recently, I was inspired by one of my favorite bloggers, Jen at PieKnits, to knit my own version of the Chunky Newsboy Cap by Diane Serviss:

Newsboycap1 

This is a great pattern for a few reasons:

1)  It's CUTE!
2)  It knits up fast–about 2 hours
3)  It uses 1 skein of relatively inexpensive yarn

 Newsboycap2 

I love it so much I've knit three of them so far, but I think this blue one is my favorite.

You'll need:  1 skein Lion Brand Wool Thick & Quick, Size 13 DPNs, Size 8 straight needles

Newsboycap3 

A note about the knitting needles:  I only had 4 size 13 DPNs so I used a 16" size 13 circular needle up to the very last row of the cap.  I knit the final row on to two DPNs, but if I had to I could've probably used the circular needle to the very end.

I promise this blog will not be so political or issue driven for very long.  I'm just in the mood to spout opinions, dearies, and I'm going to indulge.  Besides, I have at least three knit projects I need to post, plus several pieces of jewelry.  Oh, and a master bathroom re-do that includes cabinets refinished by moi.  The fluff will return pronto.

Today, however, I want to talk about confidence–specifically, lack thereof.

The idea that John McCain might end up being president (and worse–Sarah Palin might be VP) scares the bejesus out of me.  Frankly, I need my bejesus–it keeps me warm at night, and I don't have a lot to spare right now.

Unfortunately, the last eight years have convinced me that my political views and values are not in sync with the rest of the country.  I first lost confidence in the voting decisions of my fellow Americans on November 7, 2000.  I went to bed that night thinking Al Gore had been elected and woke up to find that George W. Bush was our president.  Whilst this was indeed a grave disappointment, I could forgive them (American voters) for that, because really, what did they know about how the man would govern?  Fast forward to 2004 when George W. Bush was re-elected.  I honestly couldn't believe it.  In just four short years, the man and his administration had lied to us in order to justify an invasion of another country, thus beginning a war that would lead thousands of American troops to their deaths (not to mention Iraqis), all the while stripping away many of the freedoms these men and women were fighting for in the first place.  These are but a few of the Bush Administration's many transgressions, but they are certainly among the worst.

Americans voted him in again anyway.

What is so obvious to me apparently isn't so obvious to other American voters, many of whom continue to support George W. Bush and his corrupt administration.  And while John McCain strikes me as a more sincere politician with some kind of a moral center, choosing Sarah Palin as his running mate was a slap in the face to anyone who has even moderately liberal views, let alone a pro-choice, pro-gay, anti-war atheist like me.  Because of these fundamental differences in world and social views, there is really nothing McCain can say or do that would convince me to vote for him.

There are, of course, conservatives just like me who wouldn't vote for Barack Obama if he actually were the second coming of Christ.  There's really nothing I can say about them except we will have to agree to disagree.  The voters I worry about most are the undecided ones who still haven't decided between Obama and McCain.  Voters who are disgusted by the Bush Administration but not ready to vote for a liberal democrat.  Voters who have been scared shitless by terrorism and buy into the claim that we are safer because of George W. Bush and that by extension, only McCain can keep us safe.  And worst of all–lifelong white democrats who would never call themselves racist but just can't stomach putting a black man in the White House.

I can see why a politician like John McCain might appeal to those voters, and since I've been let down by the last two elections, I have no confidence that I won't be let down again.  But I shouldn't say "let down," because American voters were exercising their right to vote as they see fit.  It just saddens me that what they see seems to be so different from what I see. 

A couple of years ago, when I was training for a marathon, every couple of weeks I was updating my running playlist.  One of the songs I ran to for weeks was by Morrissey, called Irish Blood, English Heart

I've been dreaming of time when to be English is not to be baneful, to be standing by the flag not feeling shameful, racist or partial.

Substitute American for English, of course, but these lines resonated with me.  I have never been someone who has bought into flag-waving patriotism, but I realized for the first time in my life I was actually ashamed to be an American.  My version:

I am desperate for a time when being American is not to be painful, to be standing by the flag not feeling shameful, racist, or fearful.

I hope that time comes in November.  In the meantime, I will be hording my bejesus so I'll have some in reserve.