It seems like my posts are all beginning the same way lately:  It’s been way too long since I posted.  Well, the same is true of today’s post, and lacking any original content whatsoever, I decided to peruse YouTube for some ideas.

I came across this video tutorial for making a bezel:

This is only part one, which covers measuring for your bezel.  You can see the subsequent videos in this tutorial on YouTube.

What I like about this video is that even though I generally use thicker bezel wire (generally 5-7mm), it gave me some techniques (such as using the sticky part of a post-it to measure my stone) which I had not known or thought of.

I have been making handmade jewelry and goldsmithing for almost 8 years now, but this is a good reminder that sometimes it’s great to go back and “re-learn” even the most basic of techniques.

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Whitehall Palace – All that remains today is the Banqueting Hall   

I have to admit, this writing business is really tough for me.  It comes as no surprise though–otherwise, I would've written a novel a long time ago.  From what I gather, it's tough for everyone, or most people, who give it a go.  The animosity I have for it is only slightly less overwhelming than the compulsion to do it, so I slowly move forward, despite my doubts and fear of failure.

You might ask why I would even try to do something that is so obviously difficult for me?  For that, I have no answer.  I have always lived very much in my head (which is a curse), and I have always constructed stories and scenes in my mind.  I have also always loved reading and am happiest when I am consumed by a good book.  I have considered myself a writer since I was young–it didn't matter that I was a writer who didn't write.  Turning 40 was important for me in that I was finally able to see the future as remaining fertile with possibilities, but that it wouldn't be forever.  That's not quite right–the future will be full of possibilities as long as I am alive–I firmly believe that.  But as I grow older, opportunities might lessen, illness might intervene, one never knows.  I do have today, however, and probably tomorrow, and so the time has come to write.

This time around, I'm doing a lot better at it.  I'm not sure of my word count but it's getting close to 20,000 if it's not there already.  I've got several scenes written, some of which are complete enough to call chapters.  All of this is great progress for me, since previous attempts at writing anything have not amounted to even a chapter and I generally got stuck in the world of outlines and character bios.

My writing process is very simple.  Originally I would sit at my computer with an open document struggling to find words–any words–and I would find myself constantly deleting and backspacing, editing myself as I went along.  I also constantly struggled against the desire to check my email or CNN.com or one of a dozen or more other websites that I commonly use to waste time.  Even as I write this post it is difficult for me not to check my email even though I checked it not five minutes ago.  It's a problem.

It wasn't until I got a legal pad and pen and went into the living room with a scene in mind that the writing really started to flow.  I sit and I let the words flow as quickly as they want to.  I'll admit to crossing things out and re-wording them now and then, but it is far easier for me to write without censoring myself on this yellow pad than it is in front of the computer.  Four or five written pages later and I have close to my daily goal of 1000 words, and I go to my computer, open a document, label the scene and type what I have first written by hand.  This process allows for some editing as I go, but I am much less concerned about it since the words are WRITTEN.  The only way I am going to have a first draft is to write, and so that is what I do.

What I notice mostly at this point is that I am deficient in my descriptions.  It's as if I want to dispense with the necessity of describing a person or place and get right to the action.  This might be due to my "background" in screenwriting.  I'm not worried about it though.  There will be time enough for describing a room or an outfit when I get around to writing my second draft.  All I want, all I dream of, at this point, is a finished first draft.  I will have it before I am 41.

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Isabel Wilde (10 July 1646 – 16 April 1689) was an English spy against the Dutch between the second and third Anglo-Dutch wars who became a famous soothsayer, fortune teller, and voodoo practitioner who had many prominent clients within the court of King Charles II.

Early Life
Isabel Wilde was born in Wye, near Canturbury, England.  She was the middle child of Bartholomew Wilde, a barber, and his wife, Elizabeth.  She had an older brother, Adam (1644-1665) and younger brother, Lucien (1648-1685).

Though the Wildes were not of noble birth, Bartholomew had a good reputation in the village and his wife was employed as a wet nurse for the prominant Colepeper family.   Isabel spent much of her childhood with Thomas Colepeper and his siblings and it was a relationship that carried on into adulthood.

When she was 17, Isabel's father Bartholomew was appointed Lt. Governor of the colony of Surinam in South America.  Whilst in Surinam, her family lived on a large plantation called St. John's Hill, where Isabel befriended an African slave named Kwasi who worked on the plantation.  Kwasi was a voodoo priest and he and the other slaves taught Isabel the rituals of African religion, knowledge that she took with her when she returned to England in 1664.  Her father died at sea on the voyage back.

Shortly after she returned from Surinam, she married.  Very little is known about this marriage, but her husband died 1665, possibly from the plague.

Spying for the Crown
Some time after the death of her husband, Isabel was introduced to the court (possibly through her brother Lucien, who was becoming a popular playwright).  She became the mistress of King Charles II but it was a short lived affair because Barbara Palmer strenuously objected.  Knowing her loyalty to the crown, advisors to the King (principally Baron Arlington) enlisted her to spy on a known English double agent working for the Dutch who was living in Antwerp.

Upon arriving back in London in 1667, Isabel was heavy in debt and despite a year of petitioning the King for payment, she was never paid for her work as a spy.  She went to debtor's prison at Newgate but was released shortly after when an unknown benefactor paid her debt.

Wise Woman
Determined to avoid going to prison again, Isabel called upon her experiences with African religion in Surinam and set herself up as a wise woman in London under the alias of "Madame Culebra."  During this time, she led a double life as Isabel Wilde, a wealthy widow and sister of the famous playwright Lucien Wilde, and Madam Culebra, a popular fortune teller who worked magic at the behest of some of the most prominent citizens in London.  She operated in extreme secrecy and her dual identity was only discovered after her death in 1689.

Her work as Madame Culebra led her to become involved in some of the most dangerous events of the time, most notably the mysterious death of Sir Edmund Berry Godfrey in 1678.

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Author's Note:  The painting in this post is actually of Aphra Behn, upon whom the character of Isabel Wilde is loosely based.

I didn't come up with the line "fuck cancer," but I wish I did.  A good friend of mine from high school was diagnosed with bile duct cancer a month ago and one of her friends made her a necklace that displays this defiant message. I may not have thought of it, but it's definitely a message that I, and the rest of her friends and family, can get behind.

The cancer has compromised much of my friend's bile ducts and liver–so much so that removal of the tumor is not an option.  Her treatment for now will be radiation and chemotherapy to stop the growth and shrink the tumor, with the possibility of a living donor liver transplant in the future.  She is 40, has three wonderful kids, and a great husband. 

Who hasn't heard a story like this before?  They are everywhere, and every time I hear one like it I feel a pang of sympathy and then I move on to the very next thing–like what to write as my Facebook status or looking for knit patterns on Ravelry.  Certainly I knew these stories could be filed in the "Sometimes Life Really Sucks" category.  I just didn't know how much it could suck until I heard that someone I cared about had a life-threatening illness.

Not that I'm berating myself for the many superficial things I do every day.  Life is to be lived, and a big part of life is the little things we do that give us pleasure.  But aside from the obvious fear and pain that comes from learning about a diagnosis like this, there is the equally obvious reminder that life is short.  Perhaps it's time to spend a little less time doing the little stuff and put some more effort into the things that really mean something to me.  Ironically, these are feelings I've had a lot lately since I turned 40 this year–but it took this news for me to realize it was time to stop moaning and do something about it.

At this point, I'm feeling very optimistic that my friend will beat this cancer and resume her happy, healthy life.  But her life, and the life of her family, has been rudely interrupted.  I have a luxury she doesn't have at the moment–my health–and damn it, I am thankful for that luxury.  I'm gonna milk it for all it's worth.  This, more than anything, is what I have been taught by this.  This cancer is not happening to me, but FUCK if I'm going to waste more precious time when I have the gift of living life uninterrupted.  It is time to write.  Eleven thousand words later and I'm finally feeling like I am the writer I've wanted to be since I was a child.

This is the way I will personally "fuck cancer."

In the mean time, I will also do everything I can to help support my friend during this interruption in her life.  She, and all of her friends and family are standing together, fists in the air, shouting "FUCK CANCER!" 

I made this in my jewelry studio yesterday:

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It is 18k gold and tourmaline.  I’d bought the stone quite awhile (two of them) intending to make a pair of stud earrings.  Unfortunately, both stones got nicked somehow (this is a problem I’ve had with tourmaline as it is kind of soft), which means I really can’t sell anything I make with them.

Still, the stones are beautiful and I chose the least damaged one to make this ring.  The bezel setting hides the flaw well.

My original design for this ring was to have two small hammer set diamonds where the gold balls are.  Alas, the hammer setting is one of those that I get wrong almost as often as I get it right and the band was too narrow for me to do it correctly.  A better goldsmith could’ve done it, I’m sure.

I ended up reverting to my signature style, which is a bezel set ring with a substantial sized stone and two metal balls on each side.  I gave it a satin finish to make it a bit more unique compared to my usual shiny finish.

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Overall, I am very pleased with this ring.  It felt great to use some 18k gold again since I’ve been working with so much silver lately.  The price of gold has gone down slightly, so perhaps there is more in my future?

I know, I know, I owe you a post.  Preferably one that is non-political.

There are actually a whole lot of things I want to post about, but most of my writing time has been taking up with the kind of writing I've been wanting to do for a long time:  fiction.  I try to write about 1000 words a day, in addition to research.   I've mentioned this before, but the novel is set in 1678 in London and is about a female fortune teller who becomes involved in the unsolved mystery of a client's death.  The working title is Touching of the Evil but that will definitely change because it is based on an earlier story line I'd worked out and doesn't really have anything to do with the current story.

So all that writing hasn't left a lot of time for posting here, but that's okay.

To tide you over, here is a random selection of things I'm also doing these days.

What I'm Reading
One Fifth Avenue by Candace Bushnell

What I'm Knitting
Christmas Gifts!  Can't blog too much about that because part of my limited audience might actually be receiving said gifts.

What I'm Eating
Shrimp!  I've been making a lot of things with this yummy shellfish lately.  Most recently, I made Emeril's Shrimp and Pasta with Lemon, Garlic, Chilis, and Green Onion.  It was delicious, and super easy.  I made it for a dinner party and pre-measured and prepared all the ingredients so all I had to do was throw it all together when it was time to eat.

What I'm Drinking
Sugar Free Red Bull.  I am a caffeine addict and unless someone can provide evidence that it will eventually kill me, I will remain one.  Lately, I've been drinking Sugar Free Red Bull as a substitute for coffee in the morning.  As it gets colder, I might switch back to coffee but for now I'm liking this instead.

What I'm Watching
Dexter.  I am loving it this season.

What I'm Not Watching
Californication.  We loved the first season of this show but after a couple of episodes this season, we stopped.  It was getting on my nerves.

Where I'm Surfing
I've really been loving Ravelry lately, which is a knit/crochet community.  I've been a member for awhile now but it's only been the last couple of months that I've really gotten into it.  If you haven't signed up yet and you're a knitter or crocheter, do it now!

So that's it for now.  Have a good Tuesday!

Okay, for the most part, I’m thrilled.  So thrilled, I’m gonna make you watch this:

Now that I’ve gotten that out of my system, I do need to register my utter disgust and dismay that Prop 8 passed in California.  I can’t believe anyone would even consider voting for a proposition that begins with the words “Eliminates the right of…” but apparently 52% of California voters saw no problem with that and let this vile Proposition pass.  Congratulations, California.  Now you can tell your children you “protected” them by taking away the rights of others (and for about 10% of them, their own civil rights)–I’m sure they’ll thank you for it.  But don’t worry, chickens gained civil rights, so I guess we’re even.

To be certain, California is not the only state that said a collective “fuck you” to a group of their citizens yesterday.  Florida and Arizona both passed same-sex marriage bans.  Arkansas passed a ban on adoption by same-sex couples.  Even as we were making history by voting in the first African-American president, we were taking huge steps backward in the fight for civil rights.

Read this post.  It’s good, and it’s written from a perspective I just can’t give you.

Now back to Obama.  I think he’s going to be a really great president, and not just compared to what we’ve endured for the last eight years.  I do believe he has an agenda–and that agenda is helping the American people to live happier, healthier, and more prosperous lives.

As Kate Harding so eloquently writes:

“It’s incredibly hopeful to finally be thinking of my new president as a tool in the useful sense, not the slang one.”

I especially like the insightful article in The Onion today.

“Carrying a majority of the popular vote, Obama did especially well among women and young voters, who polls showed were particularly sensitive to the current climate of everything being fucked. Another contributing factor to Obama’s victory, political experts said, may have been the growing number of Americans who, faced with the complete collapse of their country, were at last able to abandon their preconceptions and cast their vote for a progressive African-American.”

“Obama’s victory is being called the most significant change in politics since the 1992 election, when a full-scale economic recession led voters to momentarily ignore the fact that candidate Bill Clinton had once smoked marijuana.”

More than anything, however, I am glad to be able to go back to posting the things that really matter:  knitting, jewelry, painting, dogs…

Are you willing to amend the Constitution of California for the sole purpose of eliminating a fundamental right for one group of citizens?

I am voting NO on Prop 8 because I am unwilling to do this.  If Prop 8 passes we are setting a dangerous precedent for the revocation of fundamental rights now and in the future for all citizens of this state.  I am compelled to write this not only because I have friends and loved ones who will be directly effected by this current attempt to discriminate, but also because I believe deeply that we are all diminished when we allow bigotry to flourish.

If Prop 8 passes, Californians will be writing discrimination into our state constitution for the first time.  At a time when it's crucial to move forward from the mistakes of the past, the passage of Prop 8 will be a huge step backward.

If you are considering voting yes on Prop 8, then I imagine there are a few reasons (possibly in combination) for this:

1)  Your religious beliefs and/or church does not support the right of gays and lesbians to marry or your personal belief is that homosexuality is wrong/sinful and should not be validated through marriage.

Arguing against someone's religious or personal beliefs is difficult, especially when I don't share them.  However, I come from a sincere and devout religious background, and at one time I did believe, passionately.

I do understand that many of you are tempted to vote yes on Prop 8 because deep down inside you are not ready to accept that gay and lesbian relationships are equal to relationships between men and women, especially if your church or religious doctrine forbids it.  I actually sympathize with you for that, and understand that you might be having a moral struggle on this issue.  My hope is that before going into that voting booth on Tuesday, you understand that civil marriage has NOTHING to do with your own personal religious beliefs.  To use an example, I am married and I am an atheist, but my marriage is no less legally valid than yours, despite the lack of religion.

2)  The California Supreme Court acted wrongly in over-turning Prop 22, which 61% of the voters approved in 2000. 

Briefly, Prop 22 was an initiative statute that specified in the California Family Code that "only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California."  In May 2008, the California Supreme Court ruled that this statute was unconstitutional, and since June 2008, same-sex couples are allowed to marry in California.

Proponents of Prop 8 argue that the California Supreme Court acted wrongly in "overturning" the will of the people.  However, the truth is that they did their job.  Supreme Court judges are given the task of interpreting and protecting the Constitution, and it is their duty to rule on whether or not a law is unconstitutional.  Just because Prop 22 was passed by a majority vote does not make it constitutional, which the judges' ruling confirmed.

In fact, the California Supreme Court has a history of setting precedents in marriage rights.  In 1948, it recognized marriage as a fundamental right and became the first state court in the country to strike down a law prohibiting interracial marriage.

3)  Prop 8 is not discriminatory because California already has domestic partnerships, which offer the same legal benefits as marriage.

It is true that domestic partnerships offer most of the legal benefits of marriage.  There are, however, certain exceptions, mostly with regard to the creation and dissolution of domestic partnerships and some tax issues.

Domestic partnerships, while at the time being a great step forward in the extension of the fundamental rights of same-sex couples, are now recognized as not equal to marriage.  Because they do not have the same social recognition as marriage, same-sex couples are routinely denied important rights in situations where one partner needs medical attention, or when life-or-death decisions have to made.

Gays and lesbians want the same things as heterosexuals:  marriage, family, and social acceptance.  The deserve equal treatment under the law.

4)  You believe the misleading ads of the Yes on Prop 8 campaign and think that children will be taught about homosexuality in schools.

This is simply not true.  California law prohibits children being forced, against the will of their parents, to be taught anything about health and family issues at school.  Whether or not these subjects are taught is up to individual school districts, and parents can "opt out" if they wish.

If parental consent laws are not being followed your school district, then do your part to make sure they are followed.  This is important for any subject matter that parents might find objectionable.

5)  My church might be forced to perform marriages for same-sex couples or lose their tax-exempt status.

The California Supreme Court decision overturning Prop 22 specifically states that “no religion will be required to change its religious policies or practices with regard to same-sex couples, and no religious officiant will be required to solemnize a marriage in contravention of his or her religious beliefs.”

Think about it.  In California, medical professionals are legally able to deny treatment, even if it is deemed life-saving, if it conflicts with their religious beliefs.  In this atmosphere, it is highly unlikely that the state will ever force religious officiants to perform marriages they don't agree with.

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I hope this has cleared up any questions you might have about Prop 8 and that you will join me in voting NO on this discriminatory and divisive proposition.

As I am in the middle of re-doing and re-organizing parts of my house, I have been watching a lot of HGTV lately.  HGTV has always been one of my favorite channels, and I watch it regularly.  However, over the last week I have seen several of the offensive and misleading commercials in support of Prop 8.  In response, I wrote them the following letter:

To Whom it May Concern:

Over the course of the last week (October 20-25) I have seen several "Yes on Prop 8" commercials on HGTV.  I am extremely disappointed and offended by this.  Prop 8 itself is an attempt to take away the right of same-sex couples to marry–it is a vile attempt by ignorant and intolerant groups to strip people of their rights. 

I have always been struck by the seemingly "gay-friendly" attitude of HGTV as many of its shows feature gay couples, and at least one show features an openly gay host.  It is surprising to me that HGTV would accept advertising dollars from the yes on Prop 8 campaign as is completely at odds with the pledge of inclusion and diversity on the Scripps Network website.

I understand that HGTV and its affiliates derive income from advertisers, but surely there must be some choice of which advertising dollars to take.  I am a very big fan of HGTV but cannot abide by your showing the misleading and offensive commercials that support Prop 8.  Please take these commericals out of your advertising schedule.

Sincerely,
Holly West

It really bothers me that a TV network that boasts of its diversity on its website would accept advertising dollars from the Yes on Prop 8 campaign.

If you see adverts for the Yes on Prop 8 campaign on other TV stations, take a moment to contact them and voice your opinion.

As you all know by now, I am a strong proponent of the right of same-sex couples to marry.  I am a heterosexual woman who has been married for ten years to a wonderful person named Mick.

By virtue of being heterosexual, my marriage is not at risk from Prop 8, which seeks to take away the right of same-sex couples to marry.  Therefore, my personal story might not have much impact on those who support Prop 8.

What about those people whose marriages are at risk?  How do they feel about it?  How is a civil union different from a marriage, and why isn't it enough?  It boggles my mind that anyone would think it's okay to take away the right of a loving couple to marry.  I hope the stories I've linked to below will help you understand why it is so important that Prop 8 does not pass.

Tom & George
They are a couple together for ten years who had a wedding ceremony seven years ago.  When the California Supreme Court recognized their right to marry in June, they legally married in August.

No On Prop 8 Personal Story
"These have been magical, blessed days for us. Some want to take the marriage away from us, because they don't know us. They hold hatred in their hearts for us. They must. Why else would you take away anyone else's rights? Why deny people their magical, blessed days?"

SF Lesbian Wedding
"They say every woman dreams of her wedding day. As a child, I never did. But if I had, I don’t think I could have imagined a day with more meaning. "

Del Martin & Phyllis Lyons
Del and Phyllis legally married on June 16, 2008 after being together over 50 years.  Del died at age 87 on August 27, 2008.  The groundwork for Del and Phyllis to marry began sixty years ago when 40 states had criminal laws that prohibited whites and blacks from marrying.

CajunBoyLBG says it well when he writes:  This is a stark reminder that someday YOU might be part of a group some deem "less than human" and "unworthy of Constitutional protection". If you don't do the right thing now, will others be there for YOU if the whackjobs come for you?

Indeed.

When you cast your vote on November 4, remember that your vote will effect the rights of real, human, flesh & blood people.  Vote NO on Prop 8.